Hug Your Inner Child

I’m starting to realize how much my inner child needs healing. I clearly have negative and painful memories when it comes to my father. When my dad would wake up in the morning and wander out of his room, I would stay silent until I could scrutinize the way he walked and the expression on […]

You Might Be the Asshole

Ok. Maybe you’re not the asshole. You’re probably actually very lovely and I’m just projecting my own experience onto every else’s life. This morning found me grinning to myself as I reflected on a recent interaction with my husband. Our relationship is by far stronger now than it ever has been in the past. After […]

Comparing Negative Traits

I found this writing prompt on a blog and looked at it for a long time: “If I’m honest, I have the same negative traits as my father. For example: ________________.” Oof. Ok. Let’s do this. If I’m honest, I have the same negative traits as my father. For example: I get irrationally irritable and […]

Shadow Work Part 2

This was an interesting exercise. It took a minute to get started, but then everything started to flow. It’s interesting to look at these lists and make connections between them. Now I’m going to go hug my inner child and let her know that she is love. She didn’t need love from anyone else. 🖤🤍🖤 […]

Dig Deeper Into the Hurt

If there is one thing that has angered me the most in the past few months, it would definitely be my dad’s Facebook posts. He probably has the same mindset and posts as a lot of conservatives from his generation, but why do his posts in particular make the heat rise on my face and […]

Learned Shame and Blame

My parents tried their hardest. I truly believe they did the best they could with the knowledge and skills they had at the time. At the same time, there were a lot of lessons I wish I had learned during childhood. There are traits I wish I could have honed. My sisters and I were […]

Breaking the Dam

Couples’ therapy shook up my life. Well, I started the process of shaking up my life when I made the poor decisions that led us to couples’ therapy. Deep down, I had always kind of known that I needed some help unpacking all of my emotional baggage. I even remember telling my husband that I […]

Finding My Sexual Truth

I will wait for you to tell me who you are, I will wait for you to tell me your truth, and I will accept when you tell me it’s changed. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to find out who I am. I’ve probably driven my husband crazy by pondering out loud existential […]

Shadow Work

I started this blog to try to be more confident in my true self, which also means discovering my true self. I want to be seen now, instead of the years I spent dimming my light. So, you know what? Let’s dive in. Let’s be vulnerable. I read that shadow work is about illuminating the […]

TikTok & Shamanism

During my thorough perusing of TikTok, I came across a video by Rhonda McCrimmon. She drew me in and before I knew it, I signed up for emails from her website, joined her Facebook group, and then listened to one of her podcasts. She is amazingly lovely and positive, and since I’ve been on a […]