Shadow Work Part 2

This was an interesting exercise. It took a minute to get started, but then everything started to flow. It’s interesting to look at these lists and make connections between them. Now I’m going to go hug my inner child and let her know that she is love. She didn’t need love from anyone else. 🖤🤍🖤 […]

Dig Deeper Into the Hurt

If there is one thing that has angered me the most in the past few months, it would definitely be my dad’s Facebook posts. He probably has the same mindset and posts as a lot of conservatives from his generation, but why do his posts in particular make the heat rise on my face and […]

Learned Shame and Blame

My parents tried their hardest. I truly believe they did the best they could with the knowledge and skills they had at the time. At the same time, there were a lot of lessons I wish I had learned during childhood. There are traits I wish I could have honed. My sisters and I were […]

Breaking the Dam

Couples’ therapy shook up my life. Well, I started the process of shaking up my life when I made the poor decisions that led us to couples’ therapy. Deep down, I had always kind of known that I needed some help unpacking all of my emotional baggage. I even remember telling my husband that I […]

Finding My Sexual Truth

I will wait for you to tell me who you are, I will wait for you to tell me your truth, and I will accept when you tell me it’s changed. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to find out who I am. I’ve probably driven my husband crazy by pondering out loud existential […]

Peace in Vulnerability

Keeping up appearances. What a crazy self-induced constraint. No wonder I went through so many years being miserable and feeling like I didn’t really belong. Of course I don’t belong in a place that requires sacrificing my own needs and desires in order to keep up a pretty, “socially acceptable” wall between myself and the […]